Re the (split, unusable) bushing on the steel sender pipe - suggest you remove and dry the sender, then put on some heat-shrink plastic hose, as used in the electronics.
Next, yes the o-ring is supposed to dry out and "restore" overnight. Lotsa luck with that; new ones are relatively inexpensively available.
My go-to for finding the fuel leak would be to remove and plug the flex line, then lean on the tank. Having taken the hose out of the situation, this will isolate the test effect to the o-ring.
Last chance: Realize "they all do that" (they really do) and accept your fate. There are over two dozen possible sources of fuel smells in the cabin, they are at both ends of the car, but it would ruin one's day for one of them to find an ignition source. Cars on fire that I've seen, burn really well.