The schematic in post #47 looks OK to me. Here is a diagram that shows how the pin numbers correspond to the "guts" of a SPDT relay:
Keep in mind that the window switch only energizes one relay at a time. So with the top relay in the post #47 diagram energized, the green wire to the motor gets +12V and the black wire is connected to ground. And with the bottom relay energized, the black wire to the motor gets +12V and the green wire is connected to ground. With neither relay energized, both motor wires are connected to ground.
The two diodes serve as "snubbers"; they keep the relay points from burning when the relays are shut off. You'll need pretty high amperage diodes in this application. If the diodes confuse you, you can leave them out - that'll just mean that the relays last for only 25 years (with typical e9 use) instead of 50 years.